Women Empowerment Thoughts Through an Astrology Consultation
I had a client last week and let’s call her as Ms B. She was very calm and in a very sound tone she started telling her worries and fears. As I always told her that I am here to find her issues and she doesn’t have to give any clues. It is highly irritating for me when any of my clients starts telling their problems. Then why they need an astrologer? I like pinpointing their physical, material, psychological and spiritual issues from their birth chart, that too without their valuable clues. When they start giving clues I feel I am of no use and I don’t get a chance to study their life. I like that transformations, living someone else life, going through their pains and happiness, so that I can feel them better. For a short time I am living someone else life. Such a fantasy travel…why should they spoil it by giving clues? May be that Scorpio impact! Transformations…….
Let’s come back to Ms.B I asked her to give all the birth details and I cast a chart. Her chart showed a lot of turmoil than happiness. I could feel the pain. She is a young mother of 2 kids. Aspect on the 7th house, and 8th lord being the 7th lord showed early widowhood. It can be widowhood or a divorce. I can’t ask a direct question here. So I put it like this” In your chart, I see very less happiness from the husband. I hope you are not getting those full marital pleasures” She replied in a very firm voice, that she is a widow. Her husband passed away in a motor accident when her first kid was just 1 ½ years old. Then she was 1 month pregnant with the second kid.
Planet X and planet Y are in conjunction in 9th house. A clear indication of zero higher education. Yes, she has just completed her 12th standard. The disturbing fact is that planet X is exalted in the 9th house sign indicates her irresponsible nature towards studies. This is why when someone says exalted planets are very good, I disagree. They don’t always give good results. I have seen ruined lives with exalted planets. What I feel is that they may indicate good things according to Hora sasthra, but I have seen it ruining people’s life.
She works as a beautician , she owns her own parlor. Look at her strengths. She has a good dete
rmination. Plant Z is in 10th house of Karma, which is very good for her, with Planet D. A clear indication of owning her own business. See, God will not disown any of us. He has special care towards widows and kids. If he closes one door, he will open 100 other doors.
Here, of course, Ms B is in trouble. Don’t have to look at the nakshathra position, aspects, or any other astrological calculations.
She stays with her mom and 2 kids in a rented house because she is constructing her own house worth 8 lakhs. This amount may be nothing for many of my readers. For this widow it is really huge. She has only 3.5 lakhs with her now and she thought her siblings would help, and that is not going to happen. In her 3rd house, she has Planet A and C is conjunct which means strained relations with siblings.
Now let us look at her issues closely. She is a widow. It is even difficult for a “Sumangali” to live in this world. The reasons are obvious. She may be an easy target for those who want to exploit innocent lives. Our lady has physical needs, emotional needs, psychological needs which only a male can fulfill. That fulfillment is absent in her life. A woman needs a man and a man needs a woman. They give stability to each other. Now she has to fight with herself to reach that stability.
Her savings are less. She has to pay her rent, provide her family, teach kids, their hospital expenses, and there so many other needs. She is a beautician and her education is just 12th. Let’s look at the beauty industry. I think this is the one industry with so much of the progress. So many experiments are taking place , some of
them most of us are not aware. Every nook and corner of Kerala have beauty parlors. I go to the beauty parlor only for eyebrow threading and hair styling. When I go to a beauty parlor I always look at the beautician, if she can’t impress me, I will never go there again. I have gone to such parlors once or twice, but never revisited. My beautician is very well educated; she knows the scientific reasons to prove her work. For example, I had a clear face. I donno whether it is my Ketu dasa madness, I started using that nonsense cream to fight “ 1,2 ,3 ,4, 5 ,6 signs of ageing” I did not have a single wrinkle, or any blemishes till then. Once I started it, I started getting big, big pimples, very painful. I used to break it and face was full of scars. I tried so many options. I wrote to the company that your cream has done this to me. They send me a sorry mail, well, what else can they do? Finally, my doctor friend Sudev came to my help.
He suggested Clindamycin Phosphate gel, and that was the end of pimples. Lekin, the scars were so adamant. After trying so many home remedies, I went for chemical peeling. My dermatologist Dr Vinita did a great job. Now my face looks like almost all the same after 7 to 8 sittings of chemical peel. 
No one would like to continue with chemical peels, even Dr. Vinita suggested me to do it once in 6 months. She said ’’your face look radiant now you don’t need any cream”. She asked me to use some sun screen because I travel daily for my work. I was feeling so low when these scars occurred. Truly, I was very insecure. Even though doctor asked to use sunscreen, I really hate that white, pale mask which sunscreen leaves. Sun light is harmful for chemical peeled skin. Now I got confused. For the next hair spa session I asked my hair stylist Sauda on this issue. She warned me from doing further chemical peels and explained how it works. She gave me another option and that too, she explained the ingredients, the way it works and I am using it for so many days now and I can feel the difference. This knowledge is not with most of the beauticians whom I have seen. Most of them suggests some facial and no facial has ever worked or will work. Sauda is very well educated, she upgrade her skills, she knows what are the recent developments in the beauty industry, she makes use of the IT information. She has 3, parlors that too in a busy and expensive city like Delhi
Ms B, my client may not be able to come up like Sauda. If she has to be more successful, then she has to update her skills. Now a days this updating trend is so high everyone is updating their skills. Everyone is learning. As it says “vidya shaman sarva dhanam pradhanam” there is no wealth greater than education. That is the actual strength of a person. If Ms B has to fight her issues, she has to upgrade. If she has to upgrade, she has to study. How she will study? She doesn’t have anyone around for a support.
Let’s go back to her chart her 10th house of Karma has a fiery planet looking at her 4th house of home and family is indicating, that she is a person has to go away from homeland. The more she stays in homeland; she will have more issues or obstacles. If she goes abroad, she will learn new techniques, she will get more polished experience, more happiness, and more success and of course more money to fulfill her needs as well as her family’s. Otherwise, there is no option for her to upgrade her skills. Her kids and mom totally dependent on her will be benefitted due to this foreign stay. Job as a beauty consultant is more stable than IT job even though the payment many not be that high. Beauticians are always in demand in all around the world, despite the recession threats. This industry is stable and always growing
I told her this and she is willing to take up this. From the 5th house details, also there will be a distance from kids. For me, I can’t be away from my kids. . Yes, I have stayed out of station for 2, 3 months, but I can never go away from my children. For her it will be difficult to leave her children, but that is her destiny. Thank god, she has her own mother with her and that is actually a great blessing. Your emotions can never provide you. You have to fight the emotional side to be strong. My strength is my family’s strength. If I am strong, my children also will be strong. To me the problem is, even if I have some sorrow
I am unable to express it at home. I am 24*7 active like a machine and if I sit with a long face, my family members will be worried. If I am silent for 30 mnts, actually it rarely happens, then my mom will be very restless. I always get scoldings from my dad, mom and husband for speaking and laughing in high volume , but if I keep quiet for sometime, they all will get worried. So, I always make sure not to bring my sorrows or my emotional burdens to my home. It is not easy….but I submit all my worries with my lord. I am Aries Lagan, I will not accept failures, it’s my duty to fight as Mars rules Aries. My Jupiter is in Sagittarius.. I am overoptimistic, that is not good for me. My god guards me and protects me and he will keep on doing that. That is the only fact which awakens me every day to live my life.
Ms. B asked me whether she should buy a two wheeler. Without checking the chart, I told her”NO”. Even if her chart supports to have a two wheeler, she should not buy it. Because her Moon is afflicted in her chart. Moon is the mind and emotions. Her mind is full of thoughts and she is not a peaceful female. She may not be able to concentrate. Already she lost her husband in a bike accident; she is the sole provider of the family. She should not take chances with anything in her life.
I liked her confidence and hope she has in her own life. Yes, it is very painful to be alone in the life. Maybe that’s her destiny. Single status throughout her life. That’s better for her. Maybe she can get married in her late forties, but not now. She asked me what remedy she should do for her career and personal life. I told here, there is no remedy other than adding value to her.
There are so many women sitting at home, feeling victimized, falling into emotional traps, wasting time in worthless efforts and living hopeless. ‘’An idle mind is a devil’s workshop”.
I am coming from a family where most of the woman works. When I was jobless I was feeling the burden and I was ashamed to go for my family functions. Most of the ladies in my family are with some jobs and I was the bekar among them. Ohhhhh it is such an awful situation. LOL
Now a day’s government is offering so many projects for jobless people and I can see people simply criticizing local and central governments for their administration. Why don’t these people find what all they offer and find some good opportunities for them? There are so many jobs available for those who want to work or change their life. We may have to find them as they won’t come to us. We can’t live without upgrading ourselves. Even I myself was in a neutral mode with my BAL, LL.B degree, and nothing else. At one point of time I realize the value of upgrading myself and from then on wards came the happiness and progress. That doesn’t mean that I don’t have further failures. These days, I can’t find time for myself and none of my personal issues affect me.
Any woman who goes through such crisis, like Ms B can of course contact me as I am giving free consultation to poor widows, children and un privileged or underprivileged females. Please make use of this opportunity. I repeat I don’t give a free consultation to anyone other than poor widows, children and unprivileged or underprivileged females. You may call me greedy. No problem. I am ready to help you to check your chart and find the ways to upgrade and that may help you to have a better future.
Ms B wants to meet me personally, I think next Sunday I will invite her home. We will have more discussion about her life and I can share about my life. We will set some goals and action plans for her life. Not entirely based on her chart but just trusting the lord’s grace in the first place and keeping an eye on her Vimshottari Dasha . Maybe we both have some past birth connections. Or I have some past life debt with her and I am repaying like this? Only god knows.